How do I react when someone harms me. Do I forgive him or do I go for Revenge? The Christian path would be one of forgiveness and turning the other cheek to the oppressor. But when Lao Tzu taught that one should repay hostility with good deeds, Confucius answered: " With what then shall we reward good deeds? No, reward hostility with justice, and good deeds with good deeds. " Often someone harms you and gets away with it just because you say-"Forget it now, let bygones be bygones"....