How do I react when someone harms me. Do I forgive him or do I go for Revenge?
The Christian path would be one of forgiveness and turning the other cheek to the oppressor.
But when Lao Tzu taught that one should repay hostility with good deeds, Confucius answered: "With what then shall we reward good deeds? No, reward hostility with justice, and good deeds with good deeds."
Often someone harms you and gets away with it just because you say-"Forget it now, let bygones be bygones". And he gets away with it and comes back at you with renewed vigour this time knowing that not only can he get you but also that you are a wimp!!
He harms you again.
But Confucius makes a distinction here and says that if we act the same to our benefactor as well as our oppressor, how do we reward our benefactor? Is then, there no difference between someone who has helped us and someone who has harmed us? He says reward them that are good to you and punish them that do you harm.
I agree with Confucius here. Do you?